Life Coach for Caregivers

Jim started out as a clown. He was successfully earning a living as a sought after arts educator and performer with his solo clown show, Loki’s Big Dream. Happily married with two young kids, life suddenly went sideways. In January 2011 his wife, Laura, was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer.

I got pretty serious, pretty quick. Everything stopped. I turned my focus directly to looking after Laura and our kids. Everything else fell by the wayside.

Jim’s journey

Despite being a celebrated caregiver, Jim struggled with the role. At times he was a creative action hero – going to every appointment, making juice every morning and organizing tasks. “I was like the MacGyver of cancer care.” Other times Jim felt both physically and emotionally exhausted, reluctant, resentful and overlooked.

It was exhausting. I had to show a brave face and stay positive all the time. Not just for Laura and the kids, but for everyone else. People asked How are things going with you guys? All I could think was: Do you really want to know?

Caregiving changed Jim’s Life

As an artist, Jim began every project with an attitude of what if? and why not? To him new tasks were never a question of can it be done, but how can I do it? Jim has created plays, toured North America, built cabins, sheds and websites. Jim taught himself to wire a house, make masks and build his own surfboards. His latest move was holistic psychotherapy training.

When Laura got sick, I knew I needed to do something different career wise. Therapy and coaching seemed a natural fit. They aligned with my values. So I enrolled at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto. There my creativity really had a chance to shine. And I’ve developed compassion that I never thought possible.

But really, what’s he like?

Jim’s equally comfortable in a yoga class or burning brush on the family woodlot. He’s a spiritual surfer, a hockey-loving poet and a candy-fuelled coffee drinker. Jim believes that vibrantly colourful socks are an essential part of a man’s professional attire. Because even on the darkest day he can look down and feel a bright ray of hope.

So if you find yourself caring for a loved one

And you feel lost, scared, exhausted, hopeless or resentful, you can face it. With or without support, you’ll find your way through. And, if you’re curious, get in touch with Jim. He might be able to help.